Daddy Duty

Sleep, Eat, Diaper Change. Repeat.

The Worst Feeling

on January 18, 2012

What is it for you? Getting hit? Being hungry? Feeling betrayed? Missing out on a bargain? Losing a parking space?

Any one of those might have been my answer pre-parenthood, however, my answer now is the feeling of helplessness. This is definitely a new feeling to me as I’m typically the man with a plan for anything.

And yet, there are times when JJ cries and I have no idea what to do. This bugs me as all get out as I like knowing what to do and how to handle everything. And unfortunately he can’t talk yet. So, at first cry, Claire and I quickly go through our list of possible causes (wanting to be held, diaper change, feeding, temperature, light, noise, obstruction, booger, etc) and can usually appease him once we’ve solved the aforementioned issue. However, there are other times that none of the issues on the list is causing the problem and then we are stuck dumbfounded.

Then, we just sit and listen to the cries that sometimes stop and sometimes don’t. It’s nerve wracking as you know he needs something, but you just don’t know what. That powerlessness, helplessness is a horrible feeling that I despise.

I’d like to think that all will be solved when he can talk, but I’ve been forewarned the talking stage is a whole other can of worms.

P.S. FYI: One of the biggest fears new parents have is cold/fever. If the baby’s temperature rises above 100.4 degrees, it’s an automatic trip to the emergency room. If admitted you’re assured a 2 day stay complete with catheter, blood work, stool sample, etc until the culprit is found. Therefore, we’re told to constantly check his temperature. Unfortunately, the only way to check a newborn’s temperature is rectally. Temporal, tongue, ear, and armpit readings have been ruled inaccurate. As parents, we feel bad every time we lube up the thermometer and check, but it’s a necessity to rule out fever.


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